Love Not H8

The Court of Reason

2010-08-04T17:49:00.000-07:00

A long awaited decision came down today in Federal District Court in San Francisco when a federal judge ruled California’s Prop. 8 banning same-sex marriage is unconstitutional. That’s right, unconstitutional against the U.S. Constitution, not just the state constitution.

The decision by federal Judge Vaughn Walker gives hope to gay men and women everywhere. In the struggle to fight discrimination in the circles of marriage rights, the LGBT community has had to rely on the reasoned minds of the judiciary to recognize the blatant discrimination forced upon the citizenry by the so-called majority.

I’m proud to live in a country that has these checks-and-balances, so we’re not always succumbing to the mob mentality of “majority rules.” When it comes to rights, the foundation of the United States, it shouldn’t be left to the passing fancy of the loudest people around.

During the trial, Judge Walker asked reasoned questions, from both perspectives, to get to the heart of the matter. And in the end, he couldn’t see any legal arguments to make an exception of the Constitution’s equal protection clause to allow men and women to marry, but not allow same-sex couples to do the same. The judge noted that allowing such a law on the books somehow implied that heterosexual couples were somehow more entitled than same-sex couples. Today, at least, we’re all the same.

Of course, this is just the first step. In fact, the judge ruled that Prop. 8 should not be enforced, but then put a stay on his ruling to allow the issue to be appeals. But this case puts the issue on track to be decided by the U.S. Supreme Court. And decisions by the highest court of the nation often put an end to all the fighting. I look forward to that day, even though I confess I’m a bit nervous given the conservative tendencies of a court built over several years of a Republican president. In the end, I just hope the Supreme Court justices rely on reason and not emotions. Just like how Judge Walker did today.

Photo courtesy of the Los Angeles Times

Buenos Aires is a Great Place for a Honeymoon

2010-07-15T21:46:00.000-07:00

Today Argentina joined the ranks of the progressive countries who believe in civil rights. The country's senate today voted to approve same-sex marriages, being the first Latin American country to do so. (Mexico City recognizes gay marriages, but that's just a city. We're talking about an entire nation here.)

I visited Buenos Aires a few years ago, mostly because it was welcoming of gays. Today's action just confirms my affinity to this amazing city, and country, and place that despite strong opposition from the Catholic Church, still follows their hearts to do the right thing. Viva Argentina!

Read the LA Times story here.

Photo courtesy Getty Images.

Hell Must Have Frozen Over for Eminem

2010-06-18T14:59:00.001-07:00

I’ve never been a fan of Eminem, or very many rappers when I think about it, because of the general hateful language that sometimes come out of the lyrics. Eminem certainly had his days, but like everyone else, as he gets older, he’s getting more mellow.

And in a recent interview with the New York Times, the reporter asked a question about gay marriage, and turns out the new mature, sober, and tolerant Em is all for it. Who would have thunk it?

Here’s the complete exchange:

NYT: “You’ve been accused of writing gay-bashing lyrics in the past. Would you like to see gay marriage approved in Michigan, where you live?”

Eminem: “I think if two people love each other, then what the hell? I think that everyone should have the chance to be equally miserable, if they want.”

Wow, I thought I’d never see the day. But as Eminem shows, society can change. Maybe there’s hope for all of us to be miserable together one day.

Photo courtesy of the New York Times website.

Rights in the Nation's Capital

2010-03-03T22:30:00.000-08:00

I know it's been awhile since I've posted, but there really hasn't been much good news. But I did want to drop a short update to acknowledge the profound effects of this day, when our nation's capital, the District of Columbia, began issuing same-sex marriage licenses to its residents.

Because D.C. is not a state, the local legislation allowing these marriages had to be approved by Congress. The fact that same-sex supporters were able to stave off any Congressional vetoes, likely given most politicians' inability to stand up for justice and civil rights, is a major milestone.

So even though other parts of the country continues to be conservative and restrictive toward others' rights, it's nice to know that in this country's seat of politics and justice that at least that community can experience true freedoms.

2009 Same-Sex Marriage Wrap Up

2009-12-21T16:09:00.001-08:00

I’ve totally been off the radar for this blog, so my apologies to the one or two person who come and visit occasionally. You know who you are.

But as we come to the end of the year, I figure this is a good time as any to play catch-up and mention some of the highlights in the battle for marriage equality.

Gracias Mexico City. Let’s start with the latest news, and that’s Mexico City has approved legislation to legalize same-sex marriage, the first Latin American city to do that. (Buenos Aires legalizes civil unions and has been working on legalizing same-sex marriages.) Like other legislation passed (especially in the United States), it’s subject to the signature of the mayor. But it looks good, given that the mayor is from the left-leaning party called the Democratic Revolution Party. This is an amazing accomplish given the strong Catholic roots in Mexico.

The Capital Leads the Way. Earlier this month, Washington, D.C.’s city council also passed legislation to allow same-sex marriages. It’s symbolic that in the city that hosts Congress, the city council has more guts than Congress to recognize the civil rights of their citizens. Opponents, of course, are acting like poor losers and are lobbying Congress to overturn the new law. (D.C., apparently not having much control of its own jurisdiction, can get their laws vetoed by Congress. That sucks.) But Congress is likely to not get into it, doing their typical position of looking the other way.

2010 or 2012? So the LGBT community is torn about when to put the same-sex marriage issue up to California voters again since the devastating passage of Prop. 8. Groups that were pushing for a 2010 ballot measure have fallen out, mostly because of funding issues and probably some post-Prop 8 fatigue. (There’s still one group collecting signature, but not sure how much support they’ll have to launch a campaign to garner the majority votes needed.) I believe that it may take some time to get a strong showing, so 2012 may be the better year to ask the question again. But I also believe that in the civil rights movement, you can’t take a break. The inequality must always be exposed. And even if it’s on the losing end (such as in Maine recently), at least we kept the issue out there and those who vote against loving same-sex couples will have to go to bed at night knowing that they stand for discrimination.

Maine, You Make Me Sad

2009-11-05T16:04:00.000-08:00

This year’s election wasn’t one of change. In fact, it was one of resistance. Of unbending rule.

It wasn’t a big election year with major races, but the country looked to the tiny state of Maine to see if it would set the tone for the national debate about same-sex marriages. Voters in that state, similar to California and Prop. 8, barely approved a referendum that would ban same-sex marriages after their own state’s high court ruled all its citizens deserved the right to marry.

It’s disappointing, for sure. People thought there might be a chance of squashing this because more efforts in grassroots campaigning and more money went into the LGBT camp. But in the end, the lesson learned is that you can’t fight ugliness with just a big hug. There needs to be more.

It’s sad to see that people who fight vigorously to not portray themselves as bigots, saying they care about the LGBT community, would then vote to take a right that legal minds have decided should be shared by all. We like you, but we don’t want you to be like us. That’s the message they’re sending.

So the fight continues. No one expected this to be easy. Stonewall wasn’t easy. Harvey Milk died for just the simplest of recognition. But this we know for sure, we will not change to populists’ demands that we act differently or be different. Our definition of love is universal.

Read an inspiring editorial in today’s Los Angeles Times.

Who’s Up for a March?

2009-10-09T15:50:00.001-07:00

This Sunday, hopefully thousands of Americans will march on Washington, D.C.’s Mall to raise awareness of the need for equal marriage rights for gay and lesbian men and women in the United States.

I’m sad to say that I won’t be there. I would have gone if I knew this was happening. I didn’t hear about it until two weeks ago. Two weeks? Is that enough time to book a flight and make arrangements to go to D.C. from the West Coast? Since my sister lives in D.C., I probably could have bunked out with her. But even before I knew this march was actually going to happen, I already committed to other plans for this Columbus Day weekend.

This is the problem with the organizing of what should be the National Equality March. I heard the proposal for the march last year when everyone was into marching the streets to protest Prop. 8. But then there were rumblings about when it should take place and who’s going to plan it. This grassroots effort was too grassroots, meaning it didn’t have any national structure to gather all the various LGBT efforts and then get the word out.

So who will show up this weekend? I know for sure the entire cast of Broadway’s “Hair” will be there, as I read in the New York Times that the producers will close the show for one day to let the actors participate in the march. I think that’s great, and it’s that spirit that will bring a positive feel to the march. There will probably be a lot of people on the East Coast who probably might drive down to D.C. for the march. But there will also be lots of people like myself, who will be there in spirit. Maybe the next march we’ll get more advanced notice.

Why The Fight Must Continue

2009-08-11T21:47:00.000-07:00

People wonder why the LGBT community makes such a big deal about gay marriages. Even within the community some think they're fine with civil unions (talking to you, Mr. Elton John). But I think marriage equality is important, and not just because then same-sex couples can file tax returns together. Because granting marriage rights to gays and lesbians shows that they're accepted in society. It's about respect.

For years gays did not have respect. In fact, they were hated. It's this hatred that caused the death of Matthew Shepherd. I think the memory of Shepherd's death should be a rallying cry to renew the energies of the LGBT community and to keep the eye on the prize as to why at the end of the day gay marriages should be allowed. Because love is more important than hatred. Because respect means acceptance.

I created this short video as a reminder to everyone why this battle is so important. As we wait for the next steps, let's not forget the anger we felt when someone in our community like Matthew Shepherd was killed just because of who he was. Let us not forget the anger we felt when Prop. 8 was approved by California voters. Together, we need to remember the past to create a better future.

Fight Prop. 8 Biiitches! -- Kathy Griffin

2009-07-28T20:25:00.000-07:00

This week's installment of Bravo TV's "Kathy Griffin: My Life on the D List" was a very special My Life on the D List. In it, the potty-mouth, media-grabbing comedienne dedicates the entire hour on the issue of same-sex marriage and the anti-Prop. 8 movement. Many Hollywood A-listers have come out against Prop. 8 but few have given it such prominence on primetime as Ms. Griffin. And sure, some people might think it's another way of her to gain attention by trying to show support for a cause, but you can tell when watching the episode and seeing her interact with some at-risk youth in Los Angeles that she really walks the walk. I applaud her for a most engaging episode. If you haven't seen it, you should catch it on Bravo during repeats this week. Go to the Bravo site and you can see clips from the episode.

No surprise. Equality is still a dream.

2009-05-26T13:38:00.000-07:00

The California State Supreme Court came out with its long-awaited ruling on the validity of Prop. 8, which bans same-sex marriages in California. The court upheld Prop. 8, which is no surprise since the argument before the court was a technical issue about whether the proposition legally amended the state constitution.

Technical issues aside, today is just a reminder of how much work still needs to be done. Despite the recent success of gay marriages in the courts and legislatures in other states — mostly on the East Coast — in the nation’s most populous state it remains a fractious dividing point.

Interestingly, the court allowed 18,000 same-sex couples who married before the adoption of Prop. 8 to remain married since they did so with the full blessing of the laws at the time. So these couples, who I’ll call the “test marriages,” will now have rights that others just like them won’t. This creates a dichotomy in the state that is so surreal.

But I hope that these 18,000 couples and their marriages will show the hateful, ignorant supporters of Prop. 8 to realize that having gay marriages will not lessen their marriages or somehow weaken them. Hopefully they’ll see that they can co-exist with loving same-sex couples who just want to live happily ever after like them.

So what now? The work to bring marriage equality continues with more education and a lot more protests. I’m sure they’ll be events this afternoon, but the major event will be on Saturday with a “Meet in the Middle,” where people will march and gather in Fresno in Central California. This isn’t just the center of the state, but it also represents an area that needs a lot of educating about marriage equality. (Not necessarily the city of Fresno but more the Central Valley in general.)

The Courage Campaign is also trying to put TV ads that encourage the message of non-discrimination. The ad, called “Fidelity,” is pretty powerful and positive. Here it is below...

Learn more about the campaign to get 1 million signatures to join the repeal of Prop. 8 by going to the group's site here.

Needless to say, you can expect another brutal ballot initiative, possibly in 2010. While I wished it could be the courts who make the final decision, it looks like because of California’s horrendous proposition system, we will have to rely on the will of the people. And God willing, they will be more compassionate the next time they rule on another’s rights.

Links to today’s coverage:
Prop. 8 Upheld by State Supreme Court, LA Times
Court upholds Prop. 8 but lets marriages stand, SF Chronicle
California Supreme court Upholds Ban on Same-Sex Marriage, New York Times

Maine Joins the New England Wedding Rush

2009-05-06T16:11:00.001-07:00

It’s fitting that New England, some of the early grounds for the birth of our nation, appears to be leading the way in granting equal marriage rights to all citizens. Just today, Maine Gov. John Baldacci (a Democrat who once opposed same-sex marriages) signed a bill passed by the state legislature to allow same-sex marriages.

In signing the bill, Gov. Baldacci said he couldn’t let his personal beliefs blind him to his duty to uphold the Constitutional rights of everyone. He says: “I have a responsibility to uphold the Constitution. That’s my job, and you can’t allow discrimination to stand when it’s raised to your level.”

His action reminds me of the ethical dilemma of another governor a long time ago. I grew up in Hawaii, and that state’s first governor, John Burns, was a staunch Catholic. But he signed a bill allowing abortion in the state because he believed in a woman’s right to her body. This separation of church and state should always be the guiding principle among our leaders, rightly demonstrated years ago by Hawaii Gov. Burns and today by Gov. Baldacci.

Still, there’s the possibility that conservatives will take this issue “to the people” and bully the popular vote into rescinding what lawmakers have determined is best for the state. It’s this mass riot mentality that got the California populace to deny marriage rights to gays last year. Let’s hope Maine voters don’t repeat the mistake of California, and they let freedom (and wedding bells) ring loud and clear.

Link to New York Times story.

Weathering the Storm

2009-04-23T22:48:00.000-07:00

Here's another video with the "storm" theme, but this one approaching it straight (no pun intended) and telling it like it is. No reverse psychology. Just shining the light on the truth. Which is stronger? This or the one below.

Another Video For Gay Marriage?

2009-04-22T19:25:00.001-07:00

A Gaythering Storm from Jane Lynch

This is another video from the Hollywood group, "Funny or Die," who after Prop. 8's passage did a video about the hysteria of the conservative right, and now they've gone along the same theme with this about "A Gathering Storm." I have to say, this video is a little more funny than the last one, but I don't know why people think the only way to sell a message is to do the opposite? Yeah, it shows how silly the conservative right is behaving, but it just doesn't seem so convincing if you are the conservative right.

Anyway, at least we get a chance to see the hunky Jason Lewis, and I didn't realize Alicia Silverstone is still around!

Ellen Lives in Her Own World

2009-04-16T13:26:00.000-07:00

I'm a regular viewer of the "Ellen" show. In fact, I tape it every day and watch it when I get home. But something Ellen said yesterday on tax day (April 15) really bothered me.

Ellen DeGeneres and her longtime partner, the actress Portia de Rossi got married in California last year during that brief few months when same-sex marriages were allowed by the courts. Since her wedding, Prop. 8 has placed her marriage and thousands like hers in question as well as banning other gay couples from seeking marriages in the state.

But on her show, Ellen always acts as if she's a happily married couple. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure she's happy in her relationship with de Rossi. What I don't get is how she can pretend that her marriage isn't under attack?

For example, guests arrive and they always congratulate her on her wedding. That's nice of them, but it would be more honest if Ellen would correct them and say that she would be happier if her marriage wasn't revoked.

Then yesterday, on April 15, she joked about how she filed for the marriage exemption on her taxes. She wanted to show how she's like any other married couple now. But I seriously doubt that she filed for a marriage exemption, especially on her federal returns, because her marriage is not recognized by the tax collectors.

So either Ellen needs to be more honest with her viewers so they can recognize the second-class citizenship she lives under or she has a really bad accountant.

Vermont Brings Change in Marriage Laws

2009-04-07T14:49:00.000-07:00

This has been a good couple of weeks for same-sex couples — on the East Coast! First the courts in Iowa (technically more the Midwest than East coast, but you get my drift) struck down a ban against same-sex marriages, and today Vermont’s Legislature overturned a veto of the Republican governor on a bill establishing gay marriages.

Several media outlets have pointed out, and rightly so, that Vermont’s action is unique because it was done by political leaders on their own beliefs in equal rights and not as a reaction to the courts. I find this incredibly heartening because as a resident of Hawaii, the Hawaii courts ruled it discriminatory to deny same-sex couples marriage licenses and that state’s Legislature went into reactionary mode to develop laws to write a same-sex marriage ban into the state books. That reactionary tone as been duplicated in many state houses across this country.

So in the past while it has been the courts that have been shining the light on this injustice in society, Vermont’s case shifted the courage to the legislature. One day, hopefully, the populist will finally cry out for equality for all.

(The Vermont law goes into effect Sept. 1. Time for some fall weddings.)

Links to news stories:
Gay Marriage Passes, Burlington Free Press
Vermont Legislature Makes Same-Sex Marriage Legal, New York Times
Vermont Legislature Gives Final OK to Gay Marriages, Los Angeles Times
Vermont Legalizes Same-Sex Marriage, San Francisco Chronicle

They Got it Right ... in Iowa?!

2009-04-03T17:36:00.000-07:00

While California Supreme Court mulls over the question about a same-sex ban, the high court in Iowa has overturned that state's same-sex marriage ban, calling it, rightfully so, unconstitutional.

As a minority in this nation (Asian and gay, double dings!), I'm comforted to know that the courts will protect the rights of all, not just the loudest or popular. But then again, hateful voters will just cause more trouble in the ballots. If we let them. Please spread the word to any of your friends and family in the Midwest that Iowa got it right this time and they should be applauded, not made to feel ashamed.

Now if only California can be the leader like how Iowans have shown the way.

Link to news reports:
"Iowa Court Voids Gay Marriage Ban," New York Times
"Iowa Supreme Court legalizes gay marriage," Los Angeles Times

It's Not Over Until The Fat Lady Sings

2009-03-06T11:08:00.000-08:00

OK, so the morning after reports on yesterday's arguments before the California State Supreme Court don't look promising for an overturning of Proposition 8, the ban against same-sex marriages. Many in the media are predicting, based on the questioning of the justices in yesterday's closely watched hearing, that the court will uphold the voter-approved Prop. 8 but may also maintain that the 18,000 same-sex marriages that took place prior to Prop. 8 should also stay in tact.

This was a hard struggle to begin with, and I'm still not really sure if it was the best legal approach to focus on a technicality--the fact that Prop. 8 is more a constitutional revision as opposed to an amendment, which needs just a simple majority vote compared to a two-thirds vote and the involvement of the legislature for a revision. I actually like state Attorney General Jerry Brown's approach, which is basically that whatever Prop. 8 is, it should be judged on whether it violates the equal protection clause of the state constitution. Let's not focus on the technicality but on the legal implications of the proposition.

I think what the hearing really showed is the fact that California lives under a very flimsy constitution that can be altered often by the populace. One of the justices even noted that the constitution has been amended 500 times! Come on! Give me a break. Should such an important document be changed so often? I'm not a big fan of the proposition process because it's really placing the burden to developing laws on the people when we already have the process of electing officials to do that job.

The ruling should come out in the next 90 days (probably close to May) and it looks like the movement for same-sex marriages will have to go back to the people. And although many people woke up after the November elections to the fact that an injustice occurred, polls still show a slim majority banning same-sex marriages. It's sad to me that people around me still think that as a gay man, I am "different" and that I do not enjoy the same life experiences that they do.

Yesterday, a co-worker sent out an email video of his new baby boy. He and his wife gave birth to their first child on Sunday. He was so happy in his email and said how proud he was of his wife and the love she had with their new baby. He was a proud father and a proud husband. And this life experience just reminded me how sad it is that I can never experience that. Sure, I'm still single so I have that against me. But if I fell in love, we could adopt but I would never be someone's "husband." We would just be two guys with a baby in other people's eyes.

Links to new reports on the court hearing:
"California Supreme Court looks unlikely to kill Proposition 8," LA Times.
"Justices seem to be leaning in favor of Prop. 8," San Francisco Chronicle.
"California Court Weight Gay Marriage Ban," New York Times

No Rain to Stop This March for Justice

2009-03-04T22:29:00.000-08:00

Tonight I went to the San Francisco Eve of Justice rally and march. This was one of several similar events occurring across the nation as we all prepare for tomorrow's court hearing on the case against Prop. 8 before the California Supreme Court. Here are some photos from tonight's rally and march, which started in the Castro and then marched along Market Street to City Hall. (Oh, and yes that's actor Hal Sparks of "Queer As Folk" half way through the slide show.) I'm glad there wasn't any rain, which we've had for the last few days in the Bay Area. So that made for a nice turnout.

Attack on DOMA

2009-03-03T12:25:00.000-08:00

A lawsuit was filed in U.S. District Court in Massachusetts challenging the federal ban to recognize same-sex marriages performed at various states. There are only two states (Massachusetts and Connecticut) that currently perform same-sex marriages and the couples have been enjoying the freedom of love in their state, but still suffer from the same disparaging looks by the entire country on the federal level.

The Defense of Marriage Act, passed under the Clinton Administration as a way to appease a middle-to-conservative nation, prevents federal benefits afforded heterosexual couples to be applied to same-sex couples. There's an effort to appeal DOMA under the new Obama administration but today's lawsuit directly challenges it in the federal courts.

Massachusetts has led the way in bringing marriage equality to gay couples. Let's hope they're successful in this round as well.

Only news link I could find was this Reuters story.

Next Event: Light the Way on March 4

2009-02-27T22:33:00.000-08:00

This coming week is the most important one in the efforts to repeal Prop. 8. The California Supreme Court will hear arguments on Thursday, March 5. Let's all send positive vibes so that the justices will make the right decision based on equality and not out-dated morality.

A more visible way to send the vibes is a candlelight vigil and march scheduled for the night before, the national Eve of Justice Night. The event in San Francisco will start at the Harvey Milks Plaza right at the corner of Castro and Market Streets. The rally is set for 5 to 6 p.m. and then whoever has gathered (please come out, even if it rains) will march on Market Street toward Civic Center to the steps of the California Supreme Court. (How cool is it that the state Supreme Court is in San Francisco? Just so fitting, I think.)

For events in your area, check out the group's Web site here.

Wear the White Knot

2009-02-26T23:04:00.000-08:00

So technically this is a white knot and not a white ribbon. Whatever it is, it's something to wear proudly. Another organization that has popped up post Prop. 8 is The White Knot. It's just a guy who came up with the idea of the white ribbon knot that people can wear, and the Oscar was the latest big event that showcased them. (Like it was so hard to get Hollywood to wear another ribbon.)

Just like the original red ribbon brought awareness about AIDS, lets hope this white knot gains as much recognition and doesn't get lost in the rainbow of ribbons out there. Just click on the organization's Web site to get one or you could actually get a ribbon, tie a knot and wear it. I'm sure that'll work too.

Pictured, of course, is Dustin Lance Black, winner of Best Original Screenplay at this year's Oscars for the film, "Milk."

A Message About Love to the Courts

2009-02-07T09:45:00.000-08:00

"Fidelity": Don't Divorce... from Courage Campaign on Vimeo.

This is a really cool video from the Courage Campaign called "Don't Divorce ..." and features same-sex couples or friends of same-sex couples saying "don't divorce my friends, etc." It's supposedly a message to the state Supreme Court to invalidate Prop. 8. There's also an online petition for supporters to sign here.

The Supreme Court, of course, isn't going to be swayed by petitions and public sentiment. They're going to rule based on the law, and that's the most we can expect from them. Still, the online petition gives us something to do so that we can feel that we're affecting change. It's hard sitting by waiting for the court to decide, so by signing the online petition, it just demonstrates to the "court of public opinion" how many people are out there who supports us. So please watch the video, and then sign the online petition. (Oh, and don't forget to do it before the deadline ... Valentines Day.)

Love Is In The Air

2009-02-06T21:43:00.001-08:00

Of course, next Saturday is that made-up holiday about love and while people will still stress over getting flowers or making dinner reservations on a Saturday night, the days after Valentines' Day will also be important for love among the same-sex couples who want to marry.

In Sacramento, a major rally is being organized by Equality Action NOW for Monday, Feb. 16, which is the Presidents' Day holiday. Among some of the expected speakers include stars like Julia Louis-Dryfus, George Takei and the people behind the movie "American Beauty." Leading up to the major rally, the people behind Equality California (unrelated to Equality Action Now) is starting a Tell 3 campaign to encourage people to tell three friends they're gay, so more people can be out and proud.

It's a lot happening this month, but I hope you check out the events and show your support. The oral arguments before the state Supreme Court is next month on March 5. So let's start building the momentum today.

Learn more about the Sacramento rally on Presidents' Day at the Equality Action NOW site here.

Buh-Bye Jeff Kent, Don’t Let The Door Hit Ya!

2009-02-03T18:23:00.000-08:00

OK, you’re probably wondering what a post about the retirement of baseball player Jeff Kent of the LA Dodgers has to do with Prop. 8? Well, it’s because I just read an article saying Kent, who played many years in San Francisco for the Giants, donated $15,000 to the Yes on 8 campaign last year.

Kent’s name was one of many released by the state on Monday after a court ruled that the information should not be withheld—something being pushed by Prop. 8 supporters who said they’ve been harassed and threatened because they donated to the proposition.

More on Kent later. But first I want to say how silly it is for Prop. 8 supporters to want to hide behind secrecy if they’ve stepped forward to back a controversial proposition. If you’re not willing to stand up for your principles, it makes me wonder how much you really believe in them?

These aren’t donors who dropped, say, $100. They’re people who spent more than $1,000 to have discrimination written into the state Constitution. I feel that people donating less than $100 is really like those in the crowd who raise their hands when asked who supports something. But when you donate $1,000 or more, which is a lot of money for me since I make very little, then you’re really sticking your head out and should be willing to stand up to the criticism.

On the other side of things, I don’t condone violence, which includes verbal and physical threats. I don’t believe in that, but I do support boycotts as a form of expressing one’s dissatisfaction against someone. The other threats should be reported to the authorities, but the fear of threats shouldn’t mean our voting system and related financial support should be shielded in secrecy.

As for Kent, I love the San Francisco Giants, which I consider to be my home team. But I never liked Kent when he played here. He was always arrogant and cocky, even though he tries to play the “good ole’ boy” image. I’m not surprised that he would support such a hateful proposition. I, for one, won’t miss him on the field.

New York Times article on Prop. 8 donor list.

Next Event: Freedom to Marry Day

2009-01-28T14:34:00.001-08:00

The next major national protest also marks the anniversary of when San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom ordered city clerks to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, setting a frenzy of gay couples lining up at City Hall right before Valentine's Day.

So it's no surprise that Freedom to Marry Day is set for Feb. 12. The event is sponsored by Marriage Equality USA and Join the Impact. Same-sex couples are encouraged to go to their city halls across the nation and ask for a marriage license. If they're denied (and you'll likely be denied unless you live in Massachussetts), then you should sit down and not leave. So this is really a national sit in for marriage rights.

It'll be interesting to see what the turn out will be. For example, I'm single so I really have no reason going in asking for a marriage license. That would be fraud. And it's a work week, so wondering how many people can take time off work to sit at city hall. But hopefully enough will show up so at least there will be media coverage and more awareness built around this ongoing issue for civil rights.

To find out more about the actual local events, check out Marriage Equality USA's chapters here.

If We March, Who Will Lead?

2009-01-24T22:34:00.000-08:00

When Prop. 8, the anti-same sex marriage proposition, passed in California last November, there was so much anger that many stormed the streets across America. Many felt the momentum was enough to go all the way to the capital and march on Washington ala the Million Man March.

But now it seems plans for a march is decentralized, misleading and confusing. Which is the lead group planning the event? Is it a march to D.C. or a march to Sacramento?

One particular group calling itself Yes on Gay Marriage and leading the charge for a march on Washington reportedly has ties to a voter guide printed last November that supported the Yes on 8 campaign, according to a new report in the Bay Area Reporter.

So who are we to believe? And more importantly, who are we to follow? It's time for legitimate and credible LGBT organizations to step forward and take the lead on planning such a major and important event. Where are our established leaders at a time when we need someone we can trust?

Today (Jan. 24), a task force planning session called the Equality Summit took place in Los Angeles. I hope more clarity will come from this meeting, and I hope that a march on Washington is still on the table so that we can show the force of our solidarity to the nation.

What's Next?

2009-01-19T15:56:00.000-08:00

When I started this blog, I was hoping to help people stay informed with what's happening on the repeal Prop. 8 front. But now with the lawsuits awaiting a hearing before the state's highest court, and locally (in the Bay Area) a lot of focus on the transit police officer shooting of a black man, it's been quiet on the protest front.

Join the Impact, a site many people went to early on to find out the latest on protests and campaigns, are now looking for ideas from the community on how to keep the message in front of people. Should there be more protests? Should we shift to town hall meetings? What's next?

If you have an idea, suggest it on the Join the Impact site, and then if others agree, it may grow and snowball into an actual movement. That's the whole grassroots elements of the anti-Prop. 8 unrest right now.

Stand Up Against DOMA

2009-01-03T20:31:00.000-08:00

A video from Join the Impact to drum up support for the national DOMA protest set for Saturday, Jan. 10.

UPDATE: Read the comments section and Sean, one of the organizers of the local DOMA event, notes that there will be a small rally at Castro & Market and then volunteers will fan out to collect signatures for the petition to be sent to Obama. If you want to join in, meet at the Castro. Go to the group's Facebook page for more info. (Again, check the comments).

What's DOMA?

2008-12-29T13:44:00.000-08:00

On January 10, 2009, the next nationwide protest takes place focused on DOMA. I know, I was like, what? DOMA stands for the Defense of Marriage Act, a federal bill signed into law in 1996 by President Bill Clinton that says the federal government will not recognize same-sex marriages that occur in the state level. (Yes, even Clinton was against same-sex marriages despite how gay-friendly he says he is.) President-elect Obama is the same way, saying he's for gay rights but probably supportive of the intent of DOMA, to keep marriages recognized as between a man and a woman. So there's a movement to encourage Obama to change his mind and rescind DOMA. So far, there's no San Francisco protest set up yet, but you can take part by signing the online petition to Obama here. Change has to come in the local, state and national level. Even the world level!

The Religious Case for Gay Marriages

2008-12-23T15:22:00.000-08:00

I get frustrated by the religious sector arguing against same-sex marriages based on the Bible. As a Christian, I struggle with the interpretation of the bible, my faith and my life as a gay man. But I recognize that each church has the discretion to perform marriages by its definition. The overall argument, however, lies in the fact that the pursuit of marriage equality deals with government-sanctioned marriages.

The government’s role in offering the right to marriage shouldn’t be governed by religious arguments. That’s why it’s so frustrating when proponents of Prop. 8 come from the religious sector, blurring the lines between how the church defines marriage and how the state does.

So if they’re going to throw religion in our face, I think there’s no better article to read than the cover story in this month’s Newsweek magazine, “Our Mutual Joy.” The essay by writer Lisa Miller definitely slants toward same-sex marriages, but I think the questions it raises is worth any conservative’s time to read. I think it’s very enlightening in demonstrating how the Bible, written by men, is a reflection of the society at that time. And the Bible should be a living document, with its core messages in tact, but its interpretation open to the way we live today.

Not surprisingly, the cover story generated a lot of feedback on the Newsweek site. So much so that the editors had to close down the comments section. See what happens when you mix religion and politics?

Link to Newsweek article: "Our Mutual Joy," Dec. 6, 2008.

WTF: The Things People Say

2008-12-21T22:54:00.000-08:00

With California Attorney General Jerry Brown now supporting the repeal of Prop. 8 before the California Supreme Court, that means the conservative, private outside groups who came into the state and confused the voting public with their hateful rhetoric are now taking the lead in arguing for Prop. 8 when the court hear arguments in spring. In a brief filed on Friday, this is what they had to say that I found most interesting:

"For this court to rule otherwise would be to tear asunder a lavish body of jurisprudence," the court papers state. "That body of decisional law commands judges — as servants of the people — to bow to the will of those whom they serve — even if the substantive result of what people have wrought in constitution-amending is deemed unenlightened."

What is so unbelievable about this position is that these people believe that majority rules, all the time, no matter how "unenlightened" the vote may be. Un. Be. Lievable. I mean, really? Have they not heard of the three branches of government: Executive, Legislative, Judiciary. The citizenry is not a part of that because the founding fathers understood that mob mentality cannot be the rule of a country. It has to be the thoughtful reasoning of impartial leaders.

Let's say the majority voted to allow the owning of slaves, does that make it right just because majority ruled it so? The thought that the Supreme Court works for us is an incredible leap of faith that every single American can make the perfect decision for his or her brother. Would you trust me in making decisions for you? I thought not.

Link to story of filing:
"Prop. 8 sponsors seek to nullify 18K gay marriages," San Francisco Chronicle

Light Up the Night -- San Francisco Edition

2008-12-20T23:41:00.000-08:00

Tonight I went to the Light Up the Night vigil in San Francisco's Union Square. It was a silent protest. (In fact, I think I heard someone sing "Silent Night." Also, there was a moving a capella version of "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas.") It was a nice big crowd, and I was impressed by how mixed the crowd was. There were a lot of families, which was nice to see too. A lot of straights supporting their gay family members or friends. That's what this is all about at this time of year, the coming together of all people looking for hope. Let's hope this message will last throughout the coming year.

Say a Little Prayer for Our Nation

2008-12-19T17:59:00.001-08:00

There’s a lot of outrage among the gay community over the selection of President-elect Obama to have evangelical pastor Rick Warren deliver the opening prayer at Obama’s inauguration next month. Warren is a conservative who has spoken out against same-sex marriages and campaigned for the passage of Prop. 8.

While I agree with those who are upset about this selection, I’m not surprised.

I think it is upsetting because while I welcome Obama’s philosophy of bringing opposing viewpoints together, that doesn’t mean you should give a person with a history of hate messaging such a grand platform as an inauguration of the nation’s president. Sure, bring him to a conference of pastors to debate marriage equality. Have him give a prayer at an inaugural luncheon. But to have such a large platform for his opposing views? That’s just sad.

Still, I’m not as upset as some gay groups that are circulating petitions (you can check those out here) because it’s not surprising coming from Obama. He calls himself a “fierce advocate for gay rights” but he’s also the one who will not come out to demand equal rights for gays when it comes to marriage. He did oppose Prop. 8 but he didn’t support the other end, which is marriage equality for all. He believes gays should be satisfied with the less-powerful marriage equivalent promoted as “civil unions.”

I did vote for Obama because there was no other candidate who stood up for gay marriages, so Obama’s position on other issues was worth supporting in lieu of his stand on this one. But I wouldn’t call myself an ardent supporter of Obama Nation. I’m not going to go out and campaign for him, or raise funds for him, or stick my neck out for him when he hasn’t done the same for the gay community. A fierce advocate? PUH-lease.

Follow The Light for Equality

2008-12-18T20:08:00.000-08:00

This Saturday is another protest, but one that takes a different form. "Light Up the Night" will be a protest with no shouting or any noise. It'll be a silent night, supposedly. Across the country, supporters for marriage equality are encouraged to gather with a candle for a peaceful vigil. The local San Francisco event will be at 5 p.m. Dec. 20 (Saturday) at Union Square. It might be cold and rainy, but hopefully we can gather a crowd. Again, the battle isn't over and we need to show that we're a united community ready to stand together. Click here for more information.

Small But Mighty Rally & March

2008-12-11T19:21:00.001-08:00

Last night I went to the Day Without Gays Rally and March that started in the San Francisco's Mission neighborhood. It was a nice night for a march as the small but feisty group marched along Valencia Street (past all the Mission restaurants) to the LGBT Community Center on Market Street. The march was supposed to end there but the group decided to march all the way to the Castro. (A splinter group tried to go to City Hall until someone convinced them that City Hall was closed and it would be dark.)

I wanted to attend the march just to keep up the solidarity and awareness building. But the crowd definitely was smaller than earlier protests soon after the November election. Don't know if it's anti-Prop. 8 fatigue or Christmas shopping, but it was a small group. I hope people will still come out to show support, despite waiting to see what the courts will do, because we still need to win in the court of public opinion, as demonstrated in the elections. We can't be complacent, ever!

Harvey Milk: You Gotta Give 'Em Hope

2008-12-07T09:10:00.000-08:00

I went to see Gus Vant Sant's "Milk" film last night and was deeply moved by this reminder of the gay rights leader and first openly gay elected politician Harvey Milk. Folding in actual footage from the times and giving the new footage a vintage look really took one back in time to the early struggles of the gay rights movement in the 1970s. People have said it before, but the the fight during Milk's time against Prop. 6 (banning gays from being teachers in California) mirrors the fight against Prop. 8 (banning gay marriages) today. The difference is the grass roots effort by the gay community fought back the ugly Prop. 6 proponents. Complacency today allowed Prop. 8 to pass. We need to remember history, and like Milk says, you gotta give 'em hope.

Let's Put on a Show!

2008-12-03T20:04:00.000-08:00

See more Jack Black videos at Funny or Die

What does liberal Hollywood do when it feels its voice isn't heard and it's struggling to understand the rest of society? Well, they put on a musical. The above is from the site Funny or Die and it's a musical about Prop. 8, starring several big names such as Allison Janney, Margaret Cho, Andy Richter, Jack Black (as Jesus no less) and the cutie Neil Patrick Harris. While it's not necessarily Emmy-winning material, I give them credit for trying. (I do feel, however, that there's too much emphasis on the monetary benefits of gay marriage. Yeah, we can add to the economy with gay weddings, but I don't think we should convince others based on the monetary benefits. It should be based on the constitutional issues.) Anywho, watch for yourself.

Day Without Gays Approaches

2008-12-03T19:53:00.001-08:00

So there's a movement to have gays and lesbians call in "gay" next Wednesday, Dec. 10, in protest and solidarity in light of the passage of Prop. 8. I think there are a lot of mixed feelings among the community on whether this will really send a strong message. I think even with the mixed feelings, everyone should make their way to the march scheduled for 6 p.m. in San Francisco, meeting up at 24th and Mission Streets.

I think it's important that as we wait for the Supreme Court to make its ruling, we continue to keep the topic of marriage equality in the forefront of everyone's minds.

Here's a link to Protest8's Web site for more information about Day Without Gays and the San Francisco March on Dec. 10.

Taking It to the Capitol

2008-11-23T09:13:00.001-08:00

There was another protest this weekend in Sacramento against Prop. 8. I couldn't make it because I don't have a car so it's hard for me to get out to the protests outside of the Bay Area, but my heart was with the crowds. It seems like people are experiencing a bit of the protest burn out because I notice the media isn't covering it as widely as before. For example, among the California newspapers, only the San Francisco Chronicle had major coverage. I think this typically happens as now people focus their attention to the Supreme Court hearings next year. But I hope people will remember that the protests show our solidarity and keeps our fight in the forefront. Maybe not as many and more larger ones now and then. We can't let our passion again fall into complacency like what happened prior to Nov. 4, 2008.

Link to local coverage:
"Gay Activists Protest Prop. 8 at Capitol" (San Francisco Chronicle)

Photo courtesy of the San Francisco Chronicle

Speaking With Courage

2008-11-21T18:36:00.000-08:00

San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom is one of the strongest heterosexual advocate for same-sex marriage. He is one of the few politicians who speak on principles without truly any political gain. And for that, we should be thankful that he's leading the charge for marriage equality. Here's more of his words in this video taped soon after the passage of Prop. 8 in California.

Draw the Curtains on Cinemark

2008-11-20T18:06:00.000-08:00

Across the nation, gays and their friends are calling for the boycott of the movie chain Cinemark. Now, I've said earlier that boycotts of businesses that donated to Yes on 8 is a double-edged sword because a business suffering financially could affect the employees who may be supporters of Prop. 8.

However, I think you can't ignore the really big companies with the deep pockets funding groups promoting hate against the LGBT community. Cinemark's CEO Alan Stock donated $10,000 to the Yes on 8 campaign, and you just can't ignore such a big donation and someone so high up in a company. (It would be different if the accountant made a donation.)

I actually never heard of Cinemark and thought I didn't have to worry about the boycott in my area, but turns out they own the movie theater I frequent at the San Francisco Westfield Shopping Mall at Union Square. I liked going to that theater because all their seats are leather and the screens are huge. But now, I won't go there because I'm boycotting Cinemark. I don't want my money contributing to the salary of a CEO who freely gives his money to groups that removes civil rights from gays and lesbians.

One particular group calling itself No MILK for Cinemark is making a point of avoiding Cinemark when the new "Milk" movie opens next week. Please support the latest movie from gay director Gus Van Sant, but don't do it at a Cinemark theater. There are alternatives. Make the effort to find them. I will.

Prop. 8 Challenges Set for Supreme Court Review

2008-11-19T19:09:00.000-08:00

The California Supreme Court today announced it will review the lawsuits filed by groups opposing Prop. 8, which enacted a ban against same-sex marriages into the state constitution. In the news reports, it says the state Supreme Court (which ruled in favor of same-sex marriages back in May) will likely hear the cases in March, which means a ruling might be issued again in May. Hopefully we can catch lightning twice.

Link to news reports:
"Prop. 8 Gay-marriage ban considered by California Supreme Court" (LA Times)
"Prop. 8 foes win right to challenge measure, but problems lie ahead" (SF Chronicle)

Images of a Rally for Love

2008-11-18T18:02:00.000-08:00

Here are more shots from the National Day of Protest Against Prop. 8 (Join the Impact) this past Saturday. These are from a rally in San Jose, Calif. Thanks to my friend Denise for taking these shots!

WTF: The Things People Say

2008-11-17T18:56:00.000-08:00

In reading various coverage on Prop. 8, I’m sometimes baffled at the quotes from proponents who are upset about the protests that have followed the proposition’s passage. Below is an example of a comment left by a user on SFGate.com relating to a story that state Attorney General Jerry Brown has filed petitions with the California Supreme Court to hear lawsuits filed against Prop. 8.

“I wonder what all of those making legal issues over this matter would think if the great number of people who voted McCain applied the same tactics to try to get the results of the presidential election overturned.”

— by glands

WTF? It’s like comparing apples and oranges. A proposition can affect the rights of individuals, as guaranteed in the Constitution. When you vote for a politician, you have the right to vote but not the right to have your candidate win. Your right only extends to the act of voting, not to the results. Even if your candidate loses, you still exercised your right to vote.

In the case of Prop. 8, the results harm the rights of a group of citizens. Therefore, it’s up to the courts to address that harm. If McCain won and those who voted against him were upset, we would learn to live with it. Just like how we learned to live with the past eight years of the Bush administration. But Prop. 8, if left intact, would be a rule that would last a lifetime. There are no term limits to Prop. 8.

Make Your Position Known: Sign the Petition to Repeal Prop. 8

2008-11-16T20:35:00.001-08:00

A list of signatures got us where we are in the first place (dang propositions). So how can a petition help, you ask? Really, not much. Signing a petition to repeal Prop. 8 in California isn't necessarily going to be recognized by the courts. So it's really just a symbolic measure, showing that there is a large group of people angry about this. Wanting something to do, maybe signing an online petition will help you feel like you're bringing about change. Click here to sign this petition.

Comedienne Sykes Comes Out ... In Life and for Marriage

2008-11-16T14:51:00.000-08:00

Several celebrities in the last week have come out in support of same-sex marriage and against the passage of Prop. 8 in California, people like George Clooney and Ellen DeGeneres. But someone who came out this weekend in support at a rally in Las Vegas also had a surprising announcement.

Actress and comedienne Wanda Sykes came out in support of same-sex marriage because she says she married her partner on Oct. 25 in California. I didn't see that coming but I'm glad Sykes was able to get married before it was banned. While her marriage is in limbo now because of Prop. 8, we now have another strong voice in the movement. Her comment from a New York Times article: "I felt like I was being attacked, personally attacked — our community was attacked."

A Nation Rallies for Equality

2008-11-15T21:27:00.000-08:00

Today was a national rally and protest day against Prop. 8. At city halls around the country, thousands gathered to express their anger. We're you among them? The slideshow above are shots from the San Francisco rally and impromptu march that I attended. At one point as the crowd broke into a march and started walking down Market Street, I saw all the signs and the bright unusually warm November sun shining bright and I choked up at the beauty of all these people supporting civil rights. It was a very moving march. ;-)

Links to news reports:
"Across the U.S., Big Rallies for Same-Sex Marriages" (New York Times)
"Prop 8 Opponents Rally Across California" (Los Angeles Times)
"Bay Area Demonstrations Condemn Prop. 8" (San Francisco Chronicle)

A Most Impassioned Plea for Love

2008-11-13T18:36:00.000-08:00

Wow. I just finally watched the Nov. 10, 2008 commentary by Keith Olberman of MSNBC. I've never watched this guy regularly, but his heart-felt commentary about the passage of Prop. 8 should teach us all about the lessons of a reasoned electorate. If we all could live in the world he describes, this planet would be a better place.

The Double-Edged Sword of Consumer Boycotts

2008-11-13T00:01:00.000-08:00

So there have been some calls by gay activists to boycott companies that have donated to Yes on Prop. 8. It's a sort of protest with your wallet.

While I generally try to be a smart consumer, buying fish that's sustainable or clothing not from known sweat shop countries, I think this Prop. 8 boycott is a bit tricky. Why? Because it's not really that easy to find the company donors. (Believe me, I tried looking through the database, conveniently organized by the Los Angeles Times, and still my eyes glazed over from all the names and small donors, but rarely did I spot a company donor. See for yourself here.)

What a lot of activists have been doing is putting up names of individual donors and then boycotting the companies where they work. Case in point: Scott Eckern, the artistic director of the Sacramento, Calif.-based California Musical Theatre. It was discovered that Mr. Eckern donated $1,000 to Yes on 8 campaign. People like Marc Shaiman (composer for "Hairspray") called for a boycott of the theatre group.

Here's an example of how one person's donation affected the employer and the employer's workers, who probably included several LGBT members. Is it fair for the others to suffer on account of one person's action as an individual? I don't think so, and neither did Mr. Eckern who resigned from his position to avoid any harm to the rest of the group.

What was interesting to me is in a statement Mr. Eckern released after his resignation, he noted that his sister is a lesbian and she supports him and he supports her. But I really wonder how much discussion on the topic occurred, and whether we as gays and lesbians need to engage even our own friends and family about why we believe marriage is the only civil unions that will be equal and fair? Maybe Mr. Eckern's lesbian sister needed to do more convincing so that her brother would not have written that $1,000 check in the first place.

And then sometimes if we do find a company to boycott where they clearly donated, then you run the risk of putting innocent workers out of a job in a really tough economy. Is that really the way to engender goodwill from heterosexuals who we need on our side of this battle?

I think the better approach is to support the companies who donated heavily to the No on Prop. 8 campaign. That means buying an iPod from Apple, ordering tickets from Live Nation, or doing your searching on the Web exclusively with Google (like you don't already). Let's support those who supported us, and that's the best way to exercise our pocketbook power.

Links to news reports on the case of Scott Eckern:
"Scott Eckern of California Musical Theater Resigns" (New York Times)
"Prop. 8 donor Scott Eckern explains his resignation" (Los Angeles Times)

Next Protest: Join the Impact Nov. 15

2008-11-12T18:40:00.000-08:00

The next major protest will be this Saturday, Nov. 15. There will be protest all around the country, but the one in the Bay Area will start at San Francisco City Hall at 10:30 a.m. Get your signs out! Go to the Protest 8SF Web site for more information.

To find a protest near you, check out the national Join the Impact site by clicking here.

LA County Joins the Fight

2008-11-12T18:21:00.000-08:00

The roster of government entities outraged by the passage of Prop. 8 continues to grow as the Los Angeles Board of Supervisors voted to join the lawsuit seeking the overturning of Prop. 8 based on the fact that it was not the proper way to amend the state constitution and it removes a fundamental right to a particular class of citizens. Los Angles County joins the cities of San Francisco, LA, and Santa Clara who have already pledged their commitment to fighting Prop. 8.

Links from news reports:
"Emotional Board of Supervisors backs Prop. 8 Challenge" (Los Angeles Times)

Love Bursts Out in Connecticut

2008-11-12T12:36:00.000-08:00

Connecticut started issuing marriage licenses today to same-sex couples! They're now the second state in the country to do that, with Massachusetts being the other. In October, the Connecticut Supreme Court struck down the state's civil unions law, saying it wasn't enough to satisfy the state constitution's equal protection clause. Why is it that the East Coast states are more same-sex-wedding-friendly than out here in the West? Anywho, congrats to all the couples in Connecticut. Happy Martha Stewart-style weddings to you all!

Links from news reports:
"Gay Marriages Begin in Connecticut" (New York Times)
"Judge Clears Way for Same-Sex Marriages" (Hartford Courant)
"Gays Get Right to Wed in Connecticut" (Associated Press)

The Day I Stepped Up to the Plate

2008-11-12T12:18:00.000-08:00

Welcome to the first day of my blog, Love Not H8. It’s a big step for me. You see, I was never really the rabble-rouser type. I had my beliefs, but I was always an observer to the changes in our society, not the instigator.

On Nov. 4, 2008, when 52 percent of Californians voted to change the state constitution to allow the words that define state-sanctioned marriage as something only between a man and a woman, I knew I couldn’t sit on the bench any longer. (Yes, I’m a baseball fan if you can’t tell already.)

I felt disgusted. Not so much that I was denied the right to marry. I’m single, so it wasn’t a pressing issue for me, personally. But I hope one day that if I do find someone special, I will have the chance to get married like many of my friends (and maybe get some of those gifts back after years of attending weddings).

But I really was more disgusted at the idea that people in today’s society still viewed me as some what different. Sure, they say they have nothing against homosexuals and they probably do believe that we’re born the way we are. But despite all they’ve come to understand, they still don’t accept me as someone just like them, somenoe who should have the freedoms and liberties to do what they get to do. And that’s specifically to be married.

Last Friday night, I marched in my first protest in my 45 years of life. Surrounded by thousands of strangers, I felt that I belonged. At least for a moment, I belonged to a community who did believe in love not hate.

(Photo above is me in the middle of the Nov. 7 march in San Francisco.)